You are beautiful, you are deserving

You are beautiful, you are deserving of all the love, passion, experiences, desires… yes, YOU.  So often we all, men and women alike, are afraid of transition, afraid of change, of the unknown, afraid to love and accept love, to love OURSELVES, the way we are – for who we are and recognize the beauty in ourselves, our partners, our families, our friends.

You are beautiful, you are deserving….

Do not be afraid to show the light you have inside of yourself.  All living things have a gift and when you share that gift and open your heart and mind you allow others to do so as well.  By being genuinely you and allowing your strengths to shine and exposing your weaknesses allows others to be closer to you and allows love to flow into your heart.

You are beautiful, you are deserving….

Surround yourself with those that offer you positive energy, that are supportive of you, that give you energy.  You deserve to be lifted up, to be given a chance to show the world your light.  As my husband has taught me people can be energy givers or energy takers and if your cup of energy is being depleted more than it is being filled then you are surrounding yourself with the wrong people.  Take time to choose your relationships wisely and if you realize a relationship is unhealthy have the courage to break those ties.  It is important for your health, your life, your soul.

You are beautiful, you are deserving…

A partnership whether friend, lover, family, co-worker should have more positive interactions than negative.  Communication should be fair and open.  It should be a partnership not a dictatorship.  You are strong and intelligent and are able to take care of yourself and yet share your life with your partners, friends, lovers, etc.  Love yourself.  Love the way you look, the way you feel.  Do not allow another to put a demand on you that you do not agree with, that you don’t want.  Love is about sharing and allowing your partner to be FREE to truly be who they are.  NEVER SACRIFICE your sense of freedom.

You are beautiful, you are deserving….

A quote that has stuck with me, although I do not know where it is from: People accept the love they feel they deserve…. so believe and know that you deserve a fair and free true love from friends, family, lovers and anything less is not love but control.  You deserve to be surrounded by positive energy.

YOU are beautiful, you are deserving….

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Stressed out mom!

ok… so I am stressed out – I should have realized it but now that I have been sick for 6 weeks and it is rare that I get sick at all;  my doctors, family and friends are pointing to STRESS… and I agree.  I have too much on my plate.  It is the core of my being though so how do I make the change – I used to be so free-spirited and carefree in my personal life and only type-A in my work life.  What happened to that me?  Is she still hiding in there under the work and school papers, computers, laundry, dishes, runny noses, and dog hair????  She has to be – right?  So I need to do some “spring” cleaning on my house and in my soul. I need to find a way to feel free again – it is possible even with responsibilities and a family.

My current day involves getting up at 645 or 7 or sometimes 5 depending on if everyone sleeps through the night – oh and sometimes they may have yelled out for me or my husband several times throughout the night (I hope that stops soon).  Then getting breakfast for everyone while standing and eating my shredded wheat (which works out b/c I like it soggy).  Then we run to daycare so I can get to school by 830 for a class that frustrates me to no end because the generation of “college-aged” students have an unbelieveable sense of entitlement – but I will save that for another post or rant.  After class, I head to my office, work, then try to get some groceries to have a healthy dinner – pick up the kids around 430 or 5 and head home.  Get dinner ready, play superhero or bad guy – depending on my son’s mood and whether my daughter wants to chase us, dancing with them in the kitchen, , snuggle with them as much as I can then read to them, put them in bed and then … actually have a conversation with my husband without interruption and do whatever I need to – clean the dishes, house, schoolwork, etc.

Now, when my husband is in town, he helps with taking them to school, picking them up, getting them in bed, playing music with them, helping with dishes.  This is a huge help – and I probably don’t tell him enough in all of the chaos – Honey – I love you and all that you do to help me and I am sorry I do not tell you enough.  I will also actually tell him.

Ok so I am stressed – no more and no less than any other parent in the world.  I just need to manage it better.  My typical answer is running but currently I am unable to run due to illness and injury so … I need to get back to my meditation days and deep breathing exercises.   I plan to ease back in with 4 7 8 Breathing Exercises.

4-7-8 Breathing:

This is great because it can be done anywhere, anytime of day, and in any position.  When you first start do it in a seated position – back straight and be mindful of your posture.  Put the tip of your tongue behind your upper teeth where they meet the tissue and keep it there the entire exercise.

EXHALE completely through your mouth making a sigh or whoosh sound,

Close your mouth and INHALE quietly through your nose to a count of FOUR,

Hold your breath for a count of SEVEN

EXHALE completely through your mouth making the same sound as before but this time to a count of EIGHT (breath out slowly).

Do this sequence a total of 4 times at least once a day if not more.

I am also going to plan my family meals in advance.  I don’t know if I mentioned it but I am not a good planner – I am very typically spontaneous so this is going to be hard work but I think it will pay off in the end.

I am going to make time for myself away from my family – ME TIME.  I always feel rejuvenated when I do this – I just don’t do it enough.

I am going to cherish my husband and do special things for him and with him.  I think too often we and many couples just get in the motion of life and take each other for granted.  We all need to be reminded that you love your partner so treat them like you do – talk to them with love and discuss frustration don’t act it out and do small things that let them know you care everyday not just on holidays.  This is important for your relationship and also for your children to see the love their parents share and strive toward a positive, loving, caring relationship.