Meltdowns….. emotions and meltdowns are so NORMAL

Today I realized that in seeing my friends 4 year old twins melt down I felt more normal… I think we often forget that kids are kids…. all kids will have melt downs, they will be sweet one minute, devilish the next, and then offer the biggest sweetest hug ever… then in a moment have a complete melt down because you didn’t put the cheese on the taco in quite the right way :).   I can laugh now but when engrossed in being busy parents I often feel helpless in those moments – when you try every way possible to approach or leave alone or modify and often the child just needs to release that emotion and it likely doesn’t have to do with whatever the focus at the moment may be…. they release, they hug and typically a few moments later they are happy again.   Since we often do not see those meltdowns from other children I sometimes wonder – are we doing something wrong?  We aren’t – we offer choices and are firm and consistent and focus on be attentive to good behaviors etc… but kids are kids and they express emotions outward which is so healthy.   It happens in all homes with toddlers – although I felt for my friend as she was handling the double meltdown with such grace… I also had a moment of relief that she goes through it too….. 🙂

Maybe we can take a lesson from our toddlers… wouldn’t it be nice after a long, grueling day at the office to come home and just cry or yell openly but not directed at anyone and then hug someone you love and it all be ok? I am going to work harder and be more mindful of my true emotions… throughout my life I have learned to bottle it up and put everyone else’s emotions ahead of mine… I even take on others emotions and hold onto them… instead of acknowledging the emotion, showing sympathy and then releasing…. I used to watch a specific movie that would trigger the emotions in me so I could have my own melt down.. cry and I always felt better…. 

How do you release emotions when you feel stressed, overwhelmed, sad, angry, etc…


Ashwagandha – Adaptive agent – anti-stress

Ashwagandha is an herb that is used in Ayurvedic medicine for various ailments, one being an adaptogen (anti stress) and I began taking it about 3 weeks ago to test it out.  Below are details of it pulled from

Ashwagandha is a plant. The root and berry are used to make medicine.

Ashwagandha has a lot of uses. But so far, there isn’t enough information to judge whether it is effective for any of them.

Ashwagandha is used for arthritisanxiety, trouble sleeping (insomnia), tumors,tuberculosisasthma, a skin condition marked by white patchiness (leukoderma),bronchitis, backache, fibromyalgia, menstrual problems, hiccups, and chronic liverdisease.

Ashwagandha is also used as an “adaptogen” to help the body cope with daily stress, and as a general tonic.

Some people also use ashwagandha for improving thinking ability, decreasing pain and swelling (inflammation), and preventing the effects of aging. It is also used forfertility problems in men and women and also to increase sexual desire.

Ashwagandha is applied to the skin for treating wounds, backache, and one-sided paralysis (hemiplegia).

The name Ashwagandha is from the Sanskrit language and is a combination of the word ashva, meaning horse, and gandha, meaning smell. The root has a strong aroma that is described as “horse-like.”

In Ayurvedic, Indian, and Unani medicine, ashwagandha is described as “Indian ginseng.” Ashwagandha is also used in traditional African medicine for a variety of ailments.

Don’t confuse ashwagandha with Physalis alkekengi. Both are known as winter cherry.

How does it work?

Ashwagandha contains chemicals that might help calm the brain, reduce swelling (inflammation), lower blood pressure, and alter the immune system.

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I began to take Ashwagandha to help with coping with daily stress and insomnia and it has been working.  I must say that I am also practicing mindfulness, 4 7 8 breathing techniques and have been doing some “clearing” of physical clutter, so it might be a combination of all but I recommend trying it.  I take it once a day, in the evening, after dinner with a full glass of water.

Over the last few weeks, I have noticed that I am more relaxed, more patient and slowly getting back to my “happy-go-lucky” self.  My children are also more relaxed, have less tantrums and are sleeping better.  Go figure – if I am more relaxed they are too… 🙂  The energy you feel is projected to those around you whether you try to cover it up by acting happy and relaxed or not.  Especially children, they are like little sponges and absorb the negative or positive vibes you project internally and externally.  So, reducing your stress is important for your overall health and well-being and mental sharpness, but also important for those around you to include your friends, families, partners and children!  It is even good for reducing the visceral fat around your middle!!!  🙂

Another natural anti-inflammatory and overall good supplement is Turmeric which can be added to your daily food by using the spice, taking the spice mixed with raw honey daily (especially during cold or allergy season), or taken daily in capsules (curcumin).